In my life, I was lucky to communicate with so many businessmen, entrepreneurs and coaches both in the West and in Runet. And I noticed a certain pattern - often these people are either very happy or very successful. But rarely - happy and successful at the same time. That is, indeed, even millions of dollars do not guarantee happiness to anyone. Everything needs to have a balance.

At the same time, I know many people who are truly happy and successful (moreover, I consider myself to be that way too). What is inherent in these people? I have identified 7 traits that are characteristic of them.

01:37 1. Success and happiness are a way of thinking.

Think about what exactly success means to you and what exactly happiness means. Indeed, often, being already happy (or successful) here and now, we simply do not notice this. And all because at every stage of life we ​​do not have a clear definition for these concepts.

03:27 2. Motivating environment.

Millions of books have been written about happiness and success (for example, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, Power Here and Now by Eckhart Tolle, etc.). See which ones are right for your current state. Surround yourself with successful thoughts and people through books, communities, and like-minded people.

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10:03 6. Good habits.

Good habits will keep you moving forward Watch what you eat, your daily routine, and more. Having a specific schedule, you will be more energetic and alert. Habits will help you feel your success, and if you do not have them, then you can easily get lost in the flow of information.

11:22 7. Harmonious relationships.

First of all, the relationship with yourself is important. If you accept and love yourself, then you will be mountains on the shoulder. Remember - love and recognition come from within, from yourself, and not from the outside, and when they are, then everything else is pulled up behind them. Think: what is inside you, how do you see this world? After all, relationships with oneself are reflected in relationships and external ones - with loved ones and loved ones, with colleagues, etc.

As you can see, success and happiness can and must go hand in hand. Successful and happy people appreciate what they have and enjoy every moment. Do you want to learn how to combine these things and bring your life into balance?

"Why do some people get what they want easily, while others work 3 jobs and can't make ends meet?"

You probably know such people.
All their ideas are immediately realized. They solve any problems very easily and quickly. And it seems that life itself helps them, carries them in its arms. They enjoy every day and they succeed.

Why is that?

As you probably already guessed, the whole point is what are your inner attitudes and beliefs, what are your views on life.

If there have been many failures in your life, if you do not believe in yourself and in your strengths, if you no longer even hope for success, then this indicates that you have already accumulated quite a lot of negative experiences and subconscious negative programs.

It is very difficult to change them consciously, because you may not even be aware of them. You have already begun to perceive some things in life as the norm, although a year ago or several years ago, this was unacceptable for you.

So, gradually, year after year, the life of many people turns into a constant struggle and overcoming. And many have already given up...

How to become happy?
How to become successful?

If you are already asking yourself these questions and looking for a solution, then you are now in the right place.

We are pleased to present you an audiotuning

The program was created by the Alexander Sviyash Center using the audio technology of the Canadian Academy "Awareness"

Yes, you can now say to yourself: “Yes, good mood, I would like to buy it, but now there is no time to listen to it...”

Start living joyfully right now! Moreover, there are such wonderful tools to improve your life, your life mood. You only need to listen to the mood for one hour a day! And you will see how your life will begin to change, how your emotional state will even out.

The mood will work successfully, gently and for a long time changing your internal state and making you a successful master of your life, when all goals are within your reach and self-confidence is your constant companion.

Spend just 60 minutes a day listening to this audio tune for 30 to 40 days to change your life for the better. Isn't this desirable state worth such a small effort?

1. I am a confident positive person!

I easily and quickly achieve my goals.

I am confident in myself and my abilities!

I have all the necessary qualities that will allow me to easily achieve my goals!

I confidently and quickly make the necessary decisions.

I easily take responsibility for decisions made when necessary.

My perseverance in achieving my goals is constantly increasing!

I am an independent person.

I have my own opinion on any issues.

I express and defend my opinion only when necessary.

I am a goal-oriented and self-sufficient person.

I let other people think whatever they want about me.

I build calm business relationships with the people around me.

I can negotiate with a variety of people.

I am constantly improving my skills in convincing people of what I need.

I approve of all my words and deeds.

I love me. I am a self-sufficient person.

I don't prove anything to anyone.

I let other people have their opinion.

I am flexible and dynamic person.

I easily and quickly change the strategy of behavior if necessary.

I easily adapt to any changes

I always achieve my goals.

I have good intuition and get the solutions I need easily and quickly. I can listen to my intuition.

I always plan my personal and work goals. I persistently and confidently move towards my goals.

Every day my activity on the way to the realization of my goals increases.

My initiative in achieving my goals is constantly growing!

I am full of energy and ready to achieve my goals!

I calmly and benevolently react to any events of my life.

Everything that happens to me always has only a positive result.

I calmly and detachedly relate to the inadequate behavior of the people around me. I let the people around me be who they are.

I forbid myself to emotionally react to any inadequate actions of the people around me.

If necessary, I confidently defend my interests, and the interests of people close to me.

I discover in myself the ability to set and achieve increasingly ambitious goals.

I have a large-scale vision and I am smarter at foreseeing future developments.

I always take the position of a player who is persistently moving towards another victory.

I am calm about any obstacles on the way to my goals.

I am grateful for any obstacles on the way to my goals, as they help me to improve my skills.

I love money and focus my attention on finding opportunities to increase my income.

I always take advantage of opportunities to get money.

I love and value money.

I apologize to all the people whose expectations I have not met.

I apologize to all the people to whom I delivered some unpleasant experiences.

I apologize to all the people I could not or did not want to help.

I apologize to the people I accidentally deceived.

I ask for forgiveness from the people in relation to whom I have not fulfilled my obligations.

I apologize to the people compared to whom I was more successful.

I apologize to the people I raised my voice at or insulted them.

I apologize to money for thinking they didn't love me.

I apologize to money for thinking that it is very hard for me to get it.

I apologize to money for not always using the opportunity to get it.

I apologize to Life for the fact that sometimes I thought that it was not fair to me.

I apologize to my work for not appreciating it enough and the benefits it gives me.

I apologize to the work for not always treating it conscientiously.

I apologize to the work for often concentrating on its shortcomings and not seeing its merits.

I apologize to myself for not always taking care of myself enough.

I apologize to myself for considering myself an insufficiently perfect person.

I apologize to myself for the fact that I sometimes depended on the opinions of others.

I forgive those people who consciously or unconsciously did something bad to me.

I forgive those people who deceived or betrayed me.

I forgive those people who have not fulfilled their obligations towards me.

I forgive those people who offended or insulted me.

I forgive those people who dishonestly got what I was supposed to get.

I forgive a lot of money for the fact that they bypass me.

I forgive money for being so hard on me.

I forgive money for never having enough of it.

I forgive money for making me live in tension.

I forgive Life for not always being fair to me.

I forgive Life for not being as easy as I would like.

I forgive myself for all my dissatisfaction with myself.

I forgive myself for all claims against myself.

I forgive myself for not taking advantage of every opportunity that came my way.

I forgive my job for not giving me the income I expect.

I forgive my work for not allowing me to achieve the results I aspire to.

I forgive those on whom I depend for their unkind attitude towards me.

I confidently and clearly set my personal goals.

I am calm and positive about failures, they help me improve my skills. If necessary, I calmly adjust my strategy for moving towards my goals.

I constantly improve my skills in achieving my goals.

I easily and quickly get the knowledge and opportunities I need.

I organize my activities in such a way that my work gives me the necessary income and satisfaction from self-realization.

81. I calmly and confidently realize all my goals in my personal life and in business. I am very glad that I live in this wonderful world.

The new school year is just around the corner. Without education, becoming a successful person in our time is not easy. But there are other, no less significant aspects of life, in order to become a happy person and live life in such a way that later it would not be excruciatingly painful for the aimlessly lived years. Let's call it commandments. There will be 25 of them in total. Try to stick to them, and everything will be fine with you! It is useful to read not only students.

1. Understand what you really like. This is the most important and the most difficult. The golden rule says - do what gives you real pleasure, and then you will become much happier. But one must be prepared for the fact that the search for one's path is a marathon that can last for many (dozens?) years.

2. Give up the garbage that you eat, drink and smoke every day. No secrets and cunning diets - just natural food, fruits, vegetables, water. You don't have to become a vegetarian and stop drinking completely - just limit sugar, flour, coffee, alcohol and all plastic food as much as possible.

3. Learn foreign languages. This will unrealistically expand the depth of perception of the world and open up unprecedented opportunities for learning, development and career growth. There are 60 million Russian-speaking Internet users. English speakers - a billion. The center of progress is now on the other side of the border, including the language one. Knowledge of English is no longer just a whim of intellectuals, but a vital necessity.

4. Read books. An approximate circle is your professional field, history, natural science, personal growth, sociology, psychology, biographies, high-quality fiction. No time to read because you drive - listen to audiobooks. The golden rule is to read/listen to at least one book a week. That's 50 books a year that will change your life.

5. Make the most of every weekend. Go to a museum, an exhibition, go in for sports, go out of town, skydive, visit relatives, go to a good movie. Expand your contact area with the world. When you have already traveled around and around everything, take your friends with you and tell them what you know. The main thing is not to sit still. The more impressions you let through yourself, the more interesting life will be, and the better you will understand things and phenomena.

6. Start a blog or regular diary. No matter what. It does not matter that you do not have eloquence and you will have no more than 10 readers. The main thing is that on its pages you will be able to think and reason. And if you just regularly write about what you love, readers will definitely come.

7. Set goals. Fix them on paper, in Word or a blog. The main thing is that they be clear, understandable and measurable. If you set a goal, you can either achieve it or not. If you do not put, then there are no options for achieving at all.

8. Learn to touch-type on the keyboard - not being able to do this in the 21st century is the same as not being able to write with a pen in the 20th. Time is one of the few treasures you have, and you should be able to type almost as fast as you can think. And you should not think about where the desired letter is, but about what you write.

9. Ride time. Learn to manage your affairs so that they work almost without your participation. For starters, read Allen (Getting Things Done) or Gleb Arkhangelsky. Make decisions quickly, act immediately, do not postpone "for later." All things either do or delegate to someone. Try not to let the ball linger in your side. Write down on the sheet all the "long-playing" things that have not yet been done and prevent you from living. Rethink whether you need them (remembering point 1). Do what is left for a few days, and you will feel incredible lightness.

10. Give up computer games, aimless sitting on social networks and stupid surfing on the Internet. Minimize communication in social networks (up to optimization - leave only one account). Destroy the TV antenna in the apartment. In order not to be drawn to constantly checking e-mail, install an agent that will inform you of incoming messages (including mobile ones).

12. Learn to get up early. The paradox is that in the early hours you always have more time than in the evening. If you leave Moscow at 7 am on weekends in the summer, then by 10 am you will already be in Yaroslavl. If you leave at 10, you will be there in the best case for dinner. The same goes for weekend shopping. A person needs 7 hours of sleep, subject to high-quality physical activity and normal nutrition.

13. Try to surround yourself with decent, honest, open-minded, smart and successful people. We are our environment from which we learn everything we know. Spend more time with people you respect and learn from (it's especially important that your bosses fall into that category). Accordingly, try to minimize communication with people who are negative, dull, pessimistic and angry. In order to get taller, you have to strive upwards, and having people nearby that you want to grow up to will be a great incentive in itself.

14. Use every moment of time and every person to learn something new. If life brings you together with a professional in any field, try to understand what is the essence of his work, what are his motivations and goals. Learn to ask the right questions - even a taxi driver can be an invaluable source of information.

15. Start traveling. It doesn't matter that there is no money for Argentina and New Zealand - the quality of rest has nothing to do with the money spent, and my best trips were to regions that are not at all distinguished by pathos and high cost. When you see how diverse the world is, you will stop obsessing over the small space around you and become more tolerant, calmer and wiser.

16. Buy a camera (maybe the simplest one) and try to capture the beauty of the world. When you succeed, you will remember your travels not only by vague impressions, but also by beautiful photographs that you brought with you. Alternatively, try drawing, singing, dancing, sculpting, designing. That is, do something that will make you look at the world with different eyes.

17. Go in for sports. It is not necessary to go to a fitness club where jocks, pick-up artists, Balzac ladies and freaks hang out. Yoga, rock climbing, biking, horizontal bars, parallel bars, football, running, plyometrics, swimming, functional training are the best friends of a person who wants to restore tone to the body and get a surge of endorphins. And forget about what an elevator is - if you have to walk less than 10 floors, use your legs. In just 3 months of methodical work on yourself, you can change the body almost beyond recognition.

18. Do unusual things. Go somewhere you've never been before, take a different route to work, sort out a problem you don't know anything about. Get out of your "comfort zone", expand your knowledge and horizons. Rearrange the furniture at home (and do it about once a year), change your appearance, hairstyle, image.

19. Invest. Ideally, every month it is worth investing part of your income, because a rich person is not someone who earns a lot, but someone who invests a lot. Try to invest in assets, minimize liabilities and control expenses. If you set yourself a financial goal and put your personal money in order, you will be surprised at how easily you will move towards achieving it.

20. Get rid of junk. Throw away any items you haven't worn or used in the last year (you won't be able to get to them next year either). Leave only what you really like and need. It's a pity to throw it away - distribute it. When buying a new item, get rid of the old similar one so that the balance is maintained. Less stuff means less dust and headaches.

21. Give more than you take. Share knowledge, experience and ideas. A person who not only takes, but also shares, is incredibly attractive. Surely you know something that others really want to learn.

22. Accept the world as it is. Give up value judgments, accept all phenomena as initially neutral. And even better - as unambiguously positive.

23. Forget about what happened in the past. It has nothing to do with your future. Take with you from there only experience, knowledge, good relations and positive impressions.

24. Don't be afraid. There are no insurmountable obstacles, and all doubts live only in your head. You don't have to be a warrior, you just need to see the goal, avoid obstacles and know that you will achieve it without a single chance to experience failure.

25. The last, it is the first. Do what you like. Learn. Learn. Develop. Change yourself from within.

And as a bonus, let's go over the key principles of life:

Mirror principle. Before judging others, you should look at yourself.

The principle of pain. An offended person inflicts insults on others.

The principle of the upper road. We move to a higher level when we begin to treat others better than they treat us.

boomerang principle. When we help others, we help ourselves

hammer principle. Never use a hammer to kill a mosquito on someone's forehead.

exchange principle. Instead of putting others in their place, we must put ourselves in their place.

The principle of learning. Every person we meet has the potential to teach us something.

principle of charisma. People show interest in a person who is interested in them.

Principle 10 points. Belief in the best qualities of people usually makes them show their best qualities.

The principle of confrontation. First you should take care of people and only then confront them.

Rock principle. Trust is the foundation of any relationship.

Elevator principle. In the process of relationships, we can lift people up or down.

situation principle. Never let a situation mean more to you than a relationship.

Bob principle. When Bob has problems with everyone, the main problem is usually Bob himself.

The principle of accessibility. Ease in relationship with ourselves helps others to feel free with us.

The trench principle. When you prepare for battle, dig a trench for yourself so that a friend can fit in it.

The principle of agriculture. All relationships need to be cultivated

The principle of 101 percent. Find the 1 percent that we agree with and focus 100 percent of our efforts on it.

The principle of patience. Traveling with others is always slower than traveling alone

Celebration principle. The true test of a relationship is not only how loyal we are to friends when they fail, but how much we rejoice when they succeed.

The principle of friendship. Other things being equal, people will tend to work with those they like; under other unequal conditions, they will still do it

The principle of cooperation. Collaboration increases the likelihood of joint victory

Satisfaction principle. In a wonderful relationship, it is enough for the parties to enjoy simply being together.

In today's realities, success is increasingly associated with happiness, and successful people are necessarily considered happy. But can happiness really equate to success? Or is there a substitution of concepts?

Happiness = success?

To understand, consider the meaning of each of the words. On Wikipedia, happiness is called a psychological state in which a person experiences satisfaction with his life. That is, the conditions of existence and meaningfulness.

Success is the positive result of achieving the intended goals.

From this it is obvious: "happiness" and "success" are completely different concepts. Happiness is a state of mind, success is the result of actions. And one cannot be replaced by another. Accordingly, successful people can be happy or unhappy equally.

Eventually happiness ≠ success.

So, consider a successful happy person and a successful unhappy person.

A successful happy person is one who has achieved his goals and is satisfied with life.

A successful unhappy person is one who has achieved his goals and is dissatisfied with life.

The dependence of happiness on success

Although happiness and success are not the same thing. Nevertheless, there is a certain connection between them. Satisfaction or dissatisfaction with life depends on the quality of success. So happiness through success is in our hands.

How to become successful and happy

To become happy, you need to take care not only about the quality of success, but also about the right path to success.

Therefore, it is worthwhile to consciously approach:

1. Choosing a goal

Purpose arises from desire. It is desire that is the starting point of the quality of purpose. Remember, the starting point of your goal should be solely YOUR desire. Not moms, not dads, grandparents. Only yours.

This does not mean that your “wants” cannot coincide with the wishes of relatives. How else can they. But it is necessary to learn to distinguish them from imposed or inspired. Only the realization of personal desires makes a person happy.

Is the desire 100% yours? Before you set a goal, think about what made you want it? What thoughts? What are the emotions and feelings? Revenge, anger, envy, low self-esteem, the desire to be the best? Vivid impressions, good mood, love, inspiration, desire to help, improve something? If thoughts, feelings are pleasant - act. Otherwise, success will not bring you any happiness. But only disappointment. After all, you will achieve not for the soul, but for your ego.

2. Target adjustment

There are times when on the way to the realization of what you want, you have to lower or raise the “final bar” somewhat. Or even change it to something else. Dont be upset. If you hadn't started moving, you wouldn't have known what you really want.

For example, your goal is to acquire your own home. Initially, you planned to buy an apartment. But in the end they came to the conclusion that it is better to buy a house. And, in the end, they decided to start building a new one.

3. How to achieve it

There is one simple rule here: the method of achievement must correspond to your life and moral principles. All this so that as a result you do not feel like a dishonest dodger. And they really became successful and happy.