In the cycle of events taking place around us, we all lose the sacred, the human, which should prevail in each of us. The world has slipped into the fact that people are afraid to do good to each other, to approach with advice, as this is fraught with consequences. Lending a helping hand can leave you without a “hand”, as such a colossus turns against you that you automatically become an enemy of the “people”.

Why is every act regarded from the outside as a step for insidious plans? The well-known saying “Do no good, you will not get evil” is more suitable than ever for defining this time, since all human values ​​​​have been lost. No matter how cynical it may sound, some people have lost all ethical and moral standards, following their blind dream of being one of the revered and respected people among the same as everyone else. Realize that no one is different from you. NOTHING.

And all why? Because everyone wants to see evil intent in good, some kind of catch, some kind of strategy, and the like. The question arises - why? What changed? What values ​​prevail? What is the reason for such an attitude towards each other? The pursuit of the next title, or the desire to show that you are somehow better than the surrounding mere mortals?

To understand why we get such a reaction to this or that behavior, it is worth reversing the events that have taken place over the past few years, deviating again and again from accepted and understood truths, in order to return to them later on new paths, with a new level of understanding of what happened . And each time you receive answers to the questions posed, do not rush to go further, analyze, think over every detail and trifle, look at all questions through the prism of reality, maybe the answer lies in each of us. Yes, we love to complain about the modern world, about technology, about Western culture... But who is following all this, aren't we ourselves?

So I don't know the answer. If each of us ask ourselves these questions, we will find a thousand excuses for ourselves, but not one for others.

I can’t say unequivocally that the world is embittered, because there are still people who keep good traditions and do everything possible to spread good morals among the population, trying to convey to us that life is not only following one’s ego and passions. The world is something sublime and beautiful, but we are blind, and this blindness is spiritual. And here we come to the understanding that fate takes its course, but this does not mean that we should not act and sit in anticipation of a miracle.

But having entered a new level and a new path, one should not make the same mistakes, stumbling and turning around on those mistakes that were left far behind. You have begun a new path, even if everything is in the fog and imaginary personalities are visible ahead, these are just illusions, it is worth being bolder and moving forward.

Gulya Jamalova

I’ll make a reservation right away - Gossip’s unformatted, but still ... “Today I met my friend, who, to the question:“ How are you? ”, She began to complain about her life. She complained that she always helps people, relatives, and they throw out all sorts of dirty tricks " She is really a very kind person. But today she said a phrase that I hear from many people: "Do not do good, you will not get evil!" But what about the law of reflection? What you sow, you reap? After all, they say that evil returns to you like a boomerang. Also good - you do good, help people, and good returns to you in a larger amount. But what happens? Some say that good should be done less, while others try to do good deeds every day. Who is right ?! " "The road to hell is paved with good deeds!"- Which, in turn, is explained by the fact that some people really only wanted to do something good, but it turned out not at all ... It largely depends on the person himself - whether he does good with selfishness and reluctantly, or simply likes to help (in the good sense of the word)..." "It so happened that I work in a women's team. And I'm the only person who has a private car. If they ask me for a favor to let you down, or take them along along the way, I never refuse. Once an employee asked me to come to the station at five in the morning, as she was meeting her boyfriend, and he was carrying a lot of things, because a taxi is too expensive. And you see, I have it for free, "in a friendly way." I refused and got on the "bad person" list. Now one of the employees asks to pick her up every morning from a stop on the way to work. She's always late, which annoys me. Go out in advance and adjust to her time, wait for her, and then rush to work faster so as not to be late already together. I tactfully refused such transportation of her to the place of work. .... Everyone ...... I am public enemy number one. So I can’t understand whether the skis don’t go ... or ..... the people are stupidly arrogant ???" People just want to do something at your expense:- to do some work (oh, I'm up to my neck, I won't have time, oh my computer flew, but I need to make a report, etc.). - lend money, and a rather large amount - give a lift somewhere, buy something, throw money on the phone - live with you (nowhere to live). Yes, do not be surprised, this also happens - to borrow some thing, and quite personal (clothing, accessories, mobile phone, etc.) "Do you want to have an enemy? Lend the man money!", this is also a folk experience. Have you come across such cases? A person sincerely wants to help another, responds with a soul to a request, does good, and as a result receives evil: he loses money and gains an enemy. And there are many such situations. It happens that you just don’t want to offend a person and you lend money or something else, and then: neither a person nor money. How to deal with it? Here are some tips: 1. Cultivate healthy egoism in yourself, the habit of putting your interests first (especially compared to the interests of people who love to "ride" others). 2. The ability to clearly say NO (and sometimes send a person if he does not understand). 3. Self-love, the ability to value yourself (and the understanding that you are the only one) and not to offend yourself. 4. Clearly and clearly explain that you will not do someone else's work (you also have a lot to do). 5. Do not pay attention to criticism addressed to you, stop communicating with such a person. 6. Always put your business first. 7. Try not to go on the "cause" of others. 8. Try to avoid subtle "manipulators", and people who take up your precious time. 9. Never let people "take advantage" of your kindness. 10. Stand your ground, don't give in. 11. Don't let people sit on your neck. Well, and most importantly: you have one life, do not waste time on "unnecessary" things for you, do not waste your precious time and nerves ...

If this question at least once appeared in your head, then I strongly advise you to read this parable, in it you will find the answer, and most importantly, you will understand how to live with the injustice of the world.

One day, a young stranger knocked on the door of the old sage, who, bursting into tears, told the old man her story.

I don’t know how I can continue to live ... - she said with trepidation in her voice. - All my life I have treated people the way I would like them to treat me, I was sincere with them and opened my soul to them ... If possible, I tried to do good to everyone, not expecting anything in return, I helped as much as I could.

I really did all this for free, but in return I received evil and ridicule. I am hurt to the point of pain and I am simply tired ... I beg you, tell me, what should I do?

The sage listened patiently and then gave the girl advice: - Strip naked and walk completely naked through the streets of the city, - the old man said calmly.

I'm sorry, but I haven't gotten to that point yet... You must be crazy or kidding! If I do this, I don’t know what to expect from passers-by ... You look, someone else will dishonor or abuse me ...

The sage suddenly got up, opened the door and placed a mirror on the table. - You are ashamed to go out into the street naked, but for some reason you are not at all ashamed to walk through the world with a naked soul, open like this door, wide open. You let everyone there who is not lazy. Your soul is a mirror, which is why we all see ourselves reflected in other people.

Their soul is full of evil and vices - they see just such an ugly picture when they look into your pure soul. They lack the strength and courage to admit that you are better than them and change. Unfortunately, this is only for the truly brave...

What should I do? How can I change this situation if, in fact, nothing depends on me? - asked the beauty.

Come on, come with me, I'll show you something... Look, this is my garden. For many years now I have been watering these flowers of unprecedented beauty and taking care of them. To be honest, I have never seen the buds of these flowers bloom. All that I had to contemplate are beautiful blooming flowers that beckon with their beauty and fragrant aroma.

Child, learn from nature. Look at these wonderful flowers and do as they do - open your heart to people carefully so that no one even notices. Open your heart to good people.

Get away from those who cut off your petals, throw them under your feet and trample on them. These weeds haven't grown up to you yet, so you can't help them. In you, they will only see an ugly reflection of themselves.

Having opened his heart to a person, it happens that he turns his back on you. Our good deeds are not noticed by people, because when you have a desire to help someone, they will never appreciate it. Being in such a situation, one involuntarily asks the question: "What is my fault? Where is my mistake?. Why does it come out like this? This instructive parable will answer this question.

One fine day, a girl knocked on the door of the old man, she wept bitterly and told the sage the story of her grief.

“I have no idea how to live in this world…” she said with excitement in her voice. – Throughout my life, I treated people the way I wanted to treat myself, I was honest and open to them ... In any case, I carried kindness and warmth, without asking for a response, I provided all possible assistance. I did not really think about self-interest, but in response I received chuckles and slander. I feel very bad, I feel overwhelmed and depressed ... Please tell me what should I do?

The wise man listened patiently and then gave the girl advice:

Strip naked and walk completely naked through the streets of the city,” the old man said calmly.

I'm sorry, but I haven't gotten to that point yet... You must be crazy or kidding! If I do this, I don’t know what to expect from passers-by ... You look, someone else will dishonor or abuse me ...

The sage suddenly got up, opened the door and placed a mirror on the table.

You are ashamed to go out into the street naked, but for some reason you are not at all ashamed to walk through the world with a naked soul, open like this door, wide open. You let everyone there who is not lazy. Your soul is a mirror, which is why we all see ourselves reflected in other people. Their soul is full of evil and vices - they see just such an ugly picture when they look into your pure soul. They lack the strength and courage to admit that you are better than them and change. Unfortunately, this is only for the truly brave...

What should I do? How can I change this situation if, in fact, nothing depends on me? - asked the beauty.

Come on, come with me, I'll show you something... Look, this is my garden. For many years now I have been watering these flowers of unprecedented beauty and taking care of them. To be honest, I have never seen the buds of these flowers bloom. All that I had to contemplate are beautiful blooming flowers that beckon with their beauty and fragrant aroma.

Child, learn from nature. Look at these wonderful flowers and do as they do - open your heart to people carefully so that no one even notices. Open your heart to good people. Get away from those who cut off your petals, throw them under your feet and trample on them. These weeds haven't grown up to you yet, so you can't help them. In you, they will only see an ugly reflection of themselves.

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Unfortunately, lately out of the mouth of people who come to see a psychologist, more and more often one hears the expression: “They say the truth:“ Don’t do good, you won’t get evil. ”But it’s absolutely impossible to say that, imagine what our world would be like if all people lived by this principle . At the same time, it is very hurt when helping someone and completely trusting him, you become a victim of deception or receive evil in gratitude. For example, taking pity on someone, the owner invites him to live with him and after a while finds himself in a situation where the relative begins to show his character, sorts things out and goes to live in another place, expressing resentment instead of gratitude. He stops communicating with the owner and tells everyone about him as about a person who has offended him and is unworthy of respect. And so it turns out that master He wanted to do good to his relative, but in return he received evil. It is not for nothing that the expression “do not do good, you will not get evil” has taken root among the people, and it is especially relevant today, when many people try not to notice the problems of other people, and are only concerned about their own well-being. For simplicity of presentation meaning of this expression, as an example, consider the development of man. After birth, the child is completely dependent on the mother, although he himself is not yet aware of this. While the mother takes care of him and is on maternity leave, the baby takes the care of the mother for granted. But now the mother goes to work, and takes the child to kindergarten. Naturally, the child does not like this course of events, he cries and realizes the absence of his mother, as in the first evil in his life. But in the evening, the mother comes to pick him up, and the baby rejoices, enjoying her return. Thus, for the first time, he learns that the return of his mother is good. However, now Baby fears that the evil may repeat itself. He becomes more aware of his needs and tries to prevent evil at all costs, but he loves to have fun. This leads to the development of egoism in him, but so far only spontaneous childishness. A little later, a person develops reasonable egoism, he begins to understand that he is not alone in striving for pleasure and involuntarily begins to compare himself with other people. He sees that someone manages to live well, and someone is deprived of life. Thus, a person develops empathy and sympathy. Due to the features education in some people, these feelings turn into altruism - a willingness to disinterestedly do good to people, regardless of their own interests. An altruist, doing good, does not look for any material benefit for himself and is guided in his actions only by mercy and compassion. So, to understand the meaning of the expression: "Do not do good, you will not receive evil," one must be an altruist in one's soul. When doing good, one does not need to demand either from man or from God his return. After all, many do good and expect self-giving. If the "barter exchange" does not work out, then the person regrets that he did a favor to another person to the detriment of his own interests. He thinks that he received evil for the good done to him. According to statistics altruists only 10% in the world, and the remaining 90% of people living on the planet can consider themselves selfish. Healthy selfishness prevents us from doing much good to others in order not to compromise our well-being and the survival of family members. Of course, many of us are ready to help a person in trouble, but altruists themselves try to find those who need help and surround them with care and attention. They are worried about everything: the ecological situation, sick children, lonely old people, the extinction of rare animals and everything else that can harm human health and life. Today, altruists become volunteers, helping lonely old people and orphans, sick animals and everyone who finds themselves in a difficult life situation. At all times, the foundations of society were entirely based on the concept of altruists, because their behavior and way of life is beneficial to the state and the people themselves. But not always gratuitous help can be deservedly appreciated by others. For example, how many people every day are saved from death by doctors, and instead of gratitude, they often hear words of accusation addressed to them. To help people- the professional duty of a doctor, but you don’t need to impose your help on everyone if you don’t work and no one asks you about it. Forcibly imposed goodness is an unpleasant intrusion into someone else's life. For example, many parents continue to help their adult children financially, although they already earn good money and do not need them. Doing good, they unconsciously try to make their children dependent, so that they are always grateful to them and respond with kindness for kindness. But children have their own family, they try, following the example of their parents, to provide for their children first, and they visit elderly parents as far as possible. For this reason, there are often conflicts between generations, where parents blame their children with the words: "we helped you, and now you help." But only a disinterested manifestation of good necessarily returns to a person. That is, if you want to help people - help, but do not impose your help on them unnecessarily. And when you do a good deed, immediately forget it and don't tell anyone about it again. After all, all people want to look successful and independent, and they cannot stand pity and patronage towards themselves.